Are you a Stage Mom/Dad or a Stage Parent? What's the difference?
A stagemom, "in the performing arts, a stage mother is a term for the mother of a child actor. The mother will often drive her child to auditions make sure he or she is on the set on time, etc. The term sometimes has a negative connotation, suggesting that the individual is prone to obnoxiously demand special treatment for her child, or suggesting that the individual has placed inappropriate pressure on her child to succeed. Some believe that a stagemom is vicariously living out her own dreams through her child. (Wikepedia)
"A stage parent is someone who is progressively and proactively involved in the development of the whole being of his/her child." (Ms. Judith Y. Villongco - Prima School)
Parenting Exchange on MVP-ex TOPIC # 2 : "REDEFINING STAGE PARENTING"
held last July 11, 2009, Saturday, 2:30—3:30pm
Conducted by:JUDITH YUVIENCO-VILLONGCOMom of 16-yr olds, Krissy & Ericka, Owner of Prima Day Care & Play Schooland PACE (Open-Educ and Homeschooling for Unique Learners)
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Insights from Mommy J:
How lucky we were to grab a chance to make connections with each other this way :=) I consider myself blessed for not only having the opportunity to provide my son with such wonderful happy childhood memories but to give myself a chance to learn and grow as a person as well. Parenting is both a responsibility and a privilege and it is wonderful to know kindred souls out there who understand our desires to connect, share, learn, grow and truly make it an enjoyable and enriching experience. Thank you to CERTIFIED supermom Judith for sharing her family and staff's time with Kids Ahoy. It was a pleasure to meet the Prima teachers as well as your lovely and talented singing duo daughters! Goodluck on their CD launch on the 20th!!!We wish that next time, more parents will realize the value of such Meaningful and Valuable Parenting Exchanges (MVP-ex) and join us :=) Nevertheless, those of us who made it were affirmed of our need for such parenting exchanges that are small, intimate and personal which are conducive to real discussion and learning.
held last July 11, 2009, Saturday, 2:30—3:30pm
Conducted by:JUDITH YUVIENCO-VILLONGCOMom of 16-yr olds, Krissy & Ericka, Owner of Prima Day Care & Play Schooland PACE (Open-Educ and Homeschooling for Unique Learners)
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Insights from Mommy J:
How lucky we were to grab a chance to make connections with each other this way :=) I consider myself blessed for not only having the opportunity to provide my son with such wonderful happy childhood memories but to give myself a chance to learn and grow as a person as well. Parenting is both a responsibility and a privilege and it is wonderful to know kindred souls out there who understand our desires to connect, share, learn, grow and truly make it an enjoyable and enriching experience. Thank you to CERTIFIED supermom Judith for sharing her family and staff's time with Kids Ahoy. It was a pleasure to meet the Prima teachers as well as your lovely and talented singing duo daughters! Goodluck on their CD launch on the 20th!!!We wish that next time, more parents will realize the value of such Meaningful and Valuable Parenting Exchanges (MVP-ex) and join us :=) Nevertheless, those of us who made it were affirmed of our need for such parenting exchanges that are small, intimate and personal which are conducive to real discussion and learning.
The operative word related to the topic discussed was "HOLISTIC DEVELOPMENT". We are all stage moms and dads although in varrying levels. Elevating all the energy, time, effort and resources spent to the next level means we advocate for our child's holistic development. We make sure we create opportunities and an ideal environment for him/her to develop not just in one but in many aspects: mind, heart, soul, body and spirit...inside and out. At each stage in their young lives, their needs vary, we must be there to provide them with the things they need in order to meet those universal needs and potentials i.e. early stage is physical (they need to be fed when they're hungry, etc).
What about their Emotional, social, cognitive, and many more? As parents we should be aware what those developmental needs are so we can provide them with guidance every step of the way. Do our choices of activities and opportunities for them answer their particular needs at every stage of their development?
What about their Emotional, social, cognitive, and many more? As parents we should be aware what those developmental needs are so we can provide them with guidance every step of the way. Do our choices of activities and opportunities for them answer their particular needs at every stage of their development?
Parenting is a lifelong process of shaping, mentoring and empowering one's child as he or she moves toward adulthood. Being engaged throughout the process is a whole different ball game and "stage".
I especially love the reminder to keep "goldilocks' just right" when it comes to stage parenting. That was a pretty powerful message for me. Ang galing ni Mommy Judith i-connect at i-relate dun ang nararamdaman ng mga anak natin.
I especially love the reminder to keep "goldilocks' just right" when it comes to stage parenting. That was a pretty powerful message for me. Ang galing ni Mommy Judith i-connect at i-relate dun ang nararamdaman ng mga anak natin.
Watch out for our August MVP-ex topic!
Additional Insights from Mommy Judith, our resource speaker.
May i just add too that childhood and parenthood today is almost like the real world case of Goldilocks and the Three Bears. I am in support of that role of Goldilocks who aside from her curiosity and exploratory characteristics aims for the "just right" soup, bed, chair, could be ... choices of friends, clothes to wear, books to read etc. In constant reflection and assessmnet of the actual capacity and capabilities of our children-psychologically, emotionally, cognitively - HOLISTICALLY. The goldilocks parent is a stage manager always looking for opportunities, procatively assessing the situation, intervening, quick to draw and withdraw :D the challenges are always present and distinct in every stage of our children's lives -- the prize from all these? Your child's "success smile" on his/her face (they carry this on and over in multiples exponentially- even in times of trouble).
Here's also a link about MASLOW which i always try to remember and correlate in my relationships and dealings with. Hope this helps all you "goldilocks" parents to address the stage or state of your children as well :D
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